Accept this, You all have bad habits, some are toxic than others, but they always consume your valuable time. We rely on good energy to get through the day, but some things you do (and don’t do) can exhaust you both mentally and physically, which can turn your beautiful day into nightmare.
The following ten habits are some of the typical pitfalls that are extremely toxic and energy-sucking, which we’ve seen thousands of people struggle with, again and again.
#1. Pretending like everything is OK when it isn’t.
Do you feel overwhelmed? Do you feel like giving up? There’s honestly no shame in it. You are not a robot; and even if you were, you’d still need to stop for maintenance sometimes. There’s no shame in admitting to yourself that you feel exhausted, doubtful, and low. This is a natural part of being human. The simple fact that you are aware of this means you are able to turn things around. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there’s no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
#2. Believing that your best days are either in front of you or behind you.
You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you’ll escape one day, and how incredible it will be, and imagining that pristine future keeps you going, but you never do it. You just use the future to escape the present. This is precisely what keeps so many of us stressed and unhappy. The flipside is true as well – obsessing about the past. What you need to accept is that there are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is yesterday and the other is tomorrow. So today, this moment, is the right time to love, to laugh, to work and to live boldly. Yes, this moment needs your undivided attention, for this is the only time and place you are truly alive.
#3. Letting pain from the past devastate the present.
I am stronger because of the hard times, wiser because of my mistakes, and happier because I have known sadness. The same is true for you. Every difficult conversation you have had included someone who was teaching you something about yourself. Every trying situation contains an opportunity for deeper self-reflection and learning. Every irritant, heartbreak, frustration, disappointment, and fearful moment is a teacher. Remember, nothing is as bad as it seems. Nothing. There’s a benefit and a blessing hidden in the folds of every experience and every outcome. So don’t you dare give up on today because of the way things looked yesterday. Don’t even think about it. Every day is a new day to try again.
#4. Trying to hold on to who you were before one of life’s storms.
Hard times are like strong storms that blow against you. And it’s not just that these storms hold you back from places you might otherwise go. They also tear away from you all but the essential parts of your ego that cannot be torn, so that afterward you see yourself as you really are, and not merely as you might like to be. This is a great thing. It may seem impossible now, but one day you will look back at the storms you have weathered and give a silent thank you. For many of us, it is the storms of our lives that have given us compassion, kindness, and gentleness that we otherwise may not have known – and that we can now give away to others, because these qualities are inside of us.
#5. Resisting change and growth.
You must consistently check with yourself and ask: “Am I committed to feeling good, or am I committed to growing?” Because growth does not always feel good, and feeling good does not always provide growth. Neither is wrong, as long as there is balance. The important thing is to remember that being uncomfortable is important too, and this discomfort often arrives right on time. Don’t avoid it – embrace it. Channel your energy into progress. All growth begins at the end of your comfort zone. When you’re feeling uncomfortable, know that the change taking place in your life is a beginning, not an ending.
#6. Taking everything personally.
There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally. And rarely do people do things because of you anyway. They do things because of them. So even when it seems personal, it probably isn’t. Remember this. And when you find yourself feeling angry, heartbroken, or victimized by the actions of another, see if you can you find within you any seed of softness, some place deep within that understands how much pain that person must be in, how burdened their soul must be, how devastatingly hardened they must be in their heart in order to behave in a way that is surely out of alignment with their own integrity.
#7. Letting negative thoughts get the best of you.
Don’t believe everything you hear – even in your own mind. Choose to be miserable and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be miserable. Choose to be happy you’ll find plenty of reasons to be happy. It is this simple 99% of the time. Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break this negative habit. Talk about your joys, your loves, and your dreams instead. Be outrageously and unreasonably positive. Be funny and creative and ridiculous and joyful all at the same time. It’ll make you feel better.
#8. Worrying and worrying and worrying and never taking action.
Worry is the biggest enemy of the present moment. It does nothing but steal your joy and keep you very busy doing absolutely nothing at all. It’s like using your imagination to create things you don’t want. Break this negative habit! It is far better to be exhausted from effort than to be tired of doing nothing but worrying. Don’t waste your effort avoiding effort. Go ahead and get it done. Today, ask yourself what is really important and then have the courage to build your day around your answer.
#9. Sacrificing all of your Self for everyone else.
Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you do, there will be very little left that you can give to anyone, even those you love dearly. Whenever you feel trapped and it’s difficult to breathe, let me remind you – don’t forget to secure your own oxygen mask first. Taking care of yourself does not make you selfish; it makes you selfless. In fact, it’s the truest form of selflessness one can experience. Only through attentive self-care can you care for others. In order to truly have a loving, supportive relationship with someone else, you need to learn how to be your own best friend first. It’s all about falling in love with yourself first and sharing that love with others who appreciate you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.
#10. Refusing to let go a little and open up to uncertainty.
True happiness takes courage. I’m talking the vulnerable, put yourself out there and risk looking like a fool sort of courage. It’s not easy, to push the limits of your vulnerability, to dig deeper and deeper into the core of who you are as an individual and not only love and accept the imperfect parts of yourself, but also expose them to others. You’ve got to be willing to break free from the norm, appear uncool and stop caring so much about what everyone thinks. It’s about taking a stand. In fact, we’ve ALL got to take the time to slow down, to break away from the crazy pace in life and take a minute to sit and stare at the sky without checking for the next text, watch the sunset without uploading it to Instagram, and just free ourselves to be ourselves. We’ve got to shelve our egos and say “yes” to the present moment, to love, to opening ourselves up to being hurt beyond hurt again, and above all, to saying “yes” to taking chances.
It’s Your Turn Now…
If you can relate to any of these toxic habits, remember, you are not alone. We all get caught up in our own heads sometimes, doing things that hold us back from our true potential. The key is awareness – recognizing these habits and changing them.
So, what’s one toxic habit or thinking pattern that sometimes drains your energy? How do you cope? Leave a comment below and share your insight with us.
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